Resistance

Feeling emotions can be hard. Feeling emotions is hard. Feeling emotions may not be wanted however it is needed.

When we don’t embrace and feel our emotions, they remain inside becoming stuck, hard, stagnated. And we can experience many emotions and honestly, at times, can be unwanted or seem ugly or undesired.

From childhood, we may have been told or taught to express some emotions is not okay, forbidden or even punished for. We then carry these learning lessons throughout our lives and subconsciously will respond in a way that obeys the learning lessons. They have come to form part of inner being and our beliefs.

This impedes our lives, our relationships and how we interact with others in many settings.

Anger, is a common one. Maybe in your childhood, an adult was angry and it looked ugly and you developed a belief that anger should not be expressed. Maybe in your childhood, an adult reprimanded you for expressing anger, and you were punished. And again, a belief is established. Anger must not be expressed or released. But where does this anger go if not released or expressed?

It stays within you. It becomes stored in your body. And when it rears itself, resistance. Resistance to feel, to express, to release. Resistance becomes the outer layer surrounding what emotion you do not want to express or release. Resistance is like the commander or sergeant; the gate keeper to these emotions we do not express.

This gate keeper; if there long enough, will not let you pass. It believes it is acting from good intentions.

When you begin to explore emotions, sit with the resistance first. Explore and understand it. Communicate with it. Become friendly with it.